In the story of Alice in Wonderland, Alice asked the cat “which way” she should go, and he replied that it depended “a good deal on where you want to get to”. When you think about dating, do you have an end goal? Do you see yourself as just meeting someone half decent, or are you clear on age, financial security, interests, geographical area, job etc. A third alternative is simply going through the motions of preparing for dating, but having no real belief that it will work for you.
Is it better to be open to suggestion like Alice or having your sights firmly set on your ideal man or woman?. Are you guided to what you want, by the questions asked by dating websites, agencies, questionnaires, friends suggestions or trends? Or do you create a façade, as you don’t believe you’ll really get who you want, if you act as yourself and tell the boring truth?
The Cat tells Alice that if she doesn’t much care where she gets to, then it wouldn’t matter what way she went, because she’d get somewhere in the end, if only she walked “long enough”. Are you still walking and looking for the right person for you? Whichever is the method you choose is fine, as long as you are honest with yourself about who you are, your strengths and faults and be proud of the person you are, warts and all!